If you used to have right-wing views get ready to become a democrat.If you thought life was all about work, it’s time to think again. You’ll spend many a long hour teasing each other for watching the novela or being addicted to Jeopardy.It will feel normal to you to have dinner at 10 pm and to go out to a bar at midnight. I remember asking a tour guide in Guatemala once what time the bus arrived. I’m not condoning that either, but just occasionally it would be nice to go out without sleepy children draped over the table or a baby crying in the corner. But once I was driving in a car with my Latin boyfriend. It turns out my boyfriend had been watching me “checking out” the 60 year-old street sweeper on the sidewalk outside.And she spurted out a schedule based on GMT – “Guatemala Maybe Time”. I looked out the window a couple of times to see if the traffic light had turned green yet. Nothing against street sweepers or mature men, but it’s just not really my style. You’ll end up covering yourself up to avoid these outbursts. We’re not talking burkini here, but don’t even think of going topless on a beach in Europe… Whether you’re the one who has to speak in Spanish, or they talk in English, there will come a time when communication breaks down due to the language barrier.Once you’ve got a few family gatherings under your belt and struggled to get your opinion across, one of two things will happen.You’ll either give up and sit muted in the corner (but that won’t go down well with the MIL) or you’ll get louder.Given that family is considered a huge part of your identity when you're raised in a Hispanic household, dating outside your race/ethnicity is more likely going to happen with Hispanic women that would consider themselves more "modern" and willing to eschew tradition to pursue their own path to happiness.
The Latino identity denotes an ethnicity, which means that Latinos exist in every color and race imaginable -- and explaining the difference between race and ethnicity can be quite a cumbersome task to take on on a daily basis.So if your own family and friends ask you to pipe down when you’re having a conversation don’t be surprised.When you have to fight to be heard, you’ll naturally crank up the volume. But nothing has the power to split your mind wide open and turn your universe upside down like dating a Latino.When your parents come to visit, expect mutterings under their breath about how famished they are.When you’re dating a Latino, your whole sense of time is adjusted. Latinos take their offspring absolutely everywhere. My parents left my sister and me in a hotel room in Thailand in the 80s while they went to watch a show.