I don't believe he is actively using the site, and I know he's not cheating on me. It's a feeling based on a fact, and so denying or correcting yourself would be an early step in ignoring information just because it's negative. What matters now, and where "right" and "wrong" are valid, is what you do with the information.
It would be wrong to come out, accusations blazing, and corner your boyfriend on the profile and the emails.
Neurobiologist Robert Sapolsky constructed a reproductive spectrum with opposite poles being tournament species, in which males compete fiercely for reproductive privileges with females, and pair bond arrangements, in which a male and female will bond for life.
These species-particular behavior patterns provide a context for aspects of human reproduction, including dating.
If instead you jump to conclusions, you risk introducing anger and defensiveness, both of which are notorious for making the truth both harder to express and harder to detect.
In modern times, emphasis on the institution of marriage, generally described as a male-female bond, has obscured pair bonds formed by same-sex and transsexual couples, and that many heterosexual couples also bond for life without offspring, or that often pairs that do have offspring separate.You may be confident he's not cheating, or not worried that he's cheating, or comfortable with your ability to sense when someone is cheating, etc., but you don't "know." No one knows about anyone but themselves, and the sooner we get comfortable with that, the better we handle the vagaries of any relationship.(And the better our bull detectors become.)Re: Online: I am getting married tomorrow and both my fiance and I got emails today from the online service we met on.I cannot admit to snooping in his computer to find evidence of this but now that I know (and on this particular site you can see that he is logging in almost daily) do you think it's just to get his jollies online or does it sound like I have to worry about him leaving or cheating.What's the best thing to do since I can't admit to the way I found out.