Or, regardless of “buy one, get one free” airline and hotel specials, he says, “we can’t afford” to extend his business trip into a mini-vacation for both of you. You both used to have an open-door policy concerning shared finances, but now he insists on handling it all.He finds reasons not to participate in family events, needing to help a friend move or work out at the gym. He accuses you of snooping in his wallet or briefcase. There’s a difference between one partner taking care of balancing the checkbook and someone suddenly being secretive about checking account balances. Sometimes, there is a valid reason for establishing a mailbox address.
Our private investigators performed a minimum 4-hour surveillance on her husband.
He may be boosting his self-esteem, but there also may be another reason for this “extra effort.”He comes home from a long day of work appearing freshly showered, well-groomed and smelling better than when he left. He’s wearing gold rings or chains for the first time.
Or you find out that he’s buying women’s jewelry but you haven’t seen any of it.
You observe an unusually high amount of text messaging. He receives texts from unfamiliar numbers or with codes like “11691.” You witness him on a different mobile phone than he normally uses, or find one in his car’s glove box. He use to always be ready for sex, despite mood, workload or stress level.
Lately, you’ve expressed interest and he’s hesitant.